my wife hates our springer puppies

by Paul
(Wiltshire)

We have had springers for 12years now and lost one of our dogs in September last year, since our other dog is now 12 we thought that we would get a puppy to bring along. A friends bitch had a litter and we looked at them and thought if we were going to have 1 we may as well have 2 as our older dog will not live forever. BIG MISTAKE.


I have taken to the puppies and am regarded as pack leader, however my wife just cannot get on with them. I have removed all plants from our garden as they like to eat everything and have fenced off all areas that may be dangerous. But as she is home with them all day they just ignore her and run riot. This is now affecting us as a family. She wants to get rid of them, but I would find this hard as an option. We were lucky with our other dogs as they seemed to be so relaxed it was unbelievable.

At 5 1/2 months they are stil to young to have long walks and they are just non stop all day, I am thinking about getting a pen made at work so they can come with me but this would not really be fair on them as I need to concentrate on my work. Anyone have any suggestions ??????

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Jun 30, 2012
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BYE BYE WIFE NEW
by: Anonymous

Personally...I would get rid of the wife...seriously.

Jun 30, 2012
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BYE BYE WIFE NEW
by: Anonymous

Personally...I would get rid of the wife...seriously.

Mar 14, 2012
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by: Michele

Paul - thanks for updating your original post. It's good to know you're getting things under control and things are looking up! I have 4 training / puppy words for you; Patience, Timing, Consistency and MORE Patience!

I know as you and your wife start to get things settled a bit you'll both feel much better. And your wife will start bonding with them, which will be great for all. Puppies can certainly be overwhelming, especially more than one!


Mar 14, 2012
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by: Anonymous

Hi, my friend just had the same problem, having 2 pups from the same litter. They run a muck. Training classes didn't work, crating them didn't work. So to not spoil either one of the pups they rehomed one and kept one. WOW what a difference changed over night. They are both really happy and content and doing really well. Good Luck

Mar 14, 2012
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by: paul

Thanks for all the comments regarding my situation. Since i posted this, things have improved a lot. We had already strated them from day one in a puppy crate, so separating them wsas easy, it was the time that they were together that was driving my wife mad. I have bought another crate and have it at work with me, i take the pups separately on alternate days and manage to get in three walks with them and some 1-1 training. The time that they are at home alone with my wife is helping as she can now bond with them without them jumping on her head. We take them out when i get home together and things are now a lot calmer. We can even manage to get all three asleep on the floor at the same time [RESULT] there are still a few issues to sort out with them, but i am sure that these will soon be resolved. Thanks again for all the input - Paul

Mar 14, 2012
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by: Anonymous

I think that it would be an advantage to BOTH (you and your wife)if you would start crate-training them. The puppies have no structure, and in the absence of that they are left to fend for themselves at home with your wife. And I must be honest, I can't understand your wife's attitude toward the pups. I lost my beloved springer at 14 yrs. of age 2 years ago, and I bought another pup several weeks later, and I love her just as much as I did my previous one. It is up to her to decide how she feels about the pups, and for some reason she choose to hate them. If they are a little unruly, then give them some training.

Mar 14, 2012
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kennels NEW
by: Anonymous

You could always treat them as working dogs and kennel them?

Mar 08, 2012
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by: Anonymous

The pups may be feeding off your wife's negative energy. They know if they are not wanted or loved by her. I don't know how anyone cannot love a springer. I love a springer cuddle or three. Consistent training now and lots of love goes a long way for a happy family unit. Have a look at their food to. A lot of commercial food has horrible additives in it that can make dogs hyper. Like kids and red food colouring.

Mar 08, 2012
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by: Anonymous

I just wanted to say that at 5 and a half months old, they're not too young for long walks. Our 6 month old westie goes for hour long walks and still has some energy to burn. If they need the exercise, just do it. It will certainly help in your case I'm sure.

Mar 08, 2012
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It's up to her NEW
by: Anonymous

Like the other posts before me: it is totally up to your wife in order for anything to improve. If she is not willing to establish herself as a pack leader and/or to become involved in daily activities with the pups, it would probably be best to rehome them. Issues and tensions will only escalate both between her and the pups as well as between her and the rest of the family (aka you).

Mar 08, 2012
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by: Andy Newell

Hi,
It's such a shame to hear of your situation.
It sounds like your wife has not yet got over the loss of your dog last year.
I have two Springer spaniels and can vouch for how lively they can be!
You wife needs to establish her position in the pack as the dogs are currently seeing her as either on the same level or lower in the pack order.
Only once this happens will she get any sort of response from them.
Basic training techniques will help with this- get some good puppy books off the web to show you the commands.
This situation will take time and persistence to overcome but will happen as long as you both work at it and don't give up.
I crated my two dogs whilst they were young to keep them safe but also to teach them when to be calm and have "time out". Only when it was toilet time, feeding or play time would they be allowed out. This is something else to try.

I guess the point is, everyone will have "their way" of doing things that worked.#
All you can do is try- only as a last resort would I consider rehoming as it sounds like your wife needs to to be the one that changes first- not the puppies. They are bearing the brunt of her frustration.

Good luck!


Mar 08, 2012
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by: Anonymous

get rid of your wife instead,and all will be fine. LOL

Mar 08, 2012
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Springer puppies NEW
by: Anonymous

I had a similar problem with our Springer who is now 7 years old and still with us. He was the runt of the litter bred by friends of ours and I think as a result of having to hold his own with the rest of the litter was very strong willed. For months he tried very hard to dominate me and more than once I wanted to send him back to our friends, but persevered and along with excercise off the lead as soon as he was able and a crate at home which he absolutely loved and needed no training to use, but where I did occasionally put him for some 'time out'oh and also a change of diet, he eventually settled down and is a brilliant dog. As long as he gets his excercise off the lead he is happy. I must admit we have always been able to let him off the lead from being very small and he always responds to recall. Training and routine are also key I think. I hope you find something that works.

Mar 08, 2012
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by: Anonymous

I had a similar problem with our Springer who is now 7 years old and still with us. He was the runt of the litter bred by friends of ours and I think as a result of having to hold his own with the rest of the litter was very strong willed. For months he tried very hard to dominate me and more than once I wanted to send him back to our friends, but persevered and along with excercise off the lead as soon as he was able and a crate at home which he absolutely loved and needed no training to use, but where I did occasionally put him for some 'time out'oh and also a change of diet, he eventually settled down and is a brilliant dog. As long as he gets his excercise off the lead he is happy. I must admit we have always been able to let him off the lead from being very small and he always responds to recall. Training and routine are also key I think. I hope you find something that works.

Mar 08, 2012
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Be Consistent & Calm - but be honest can they stay? NEW
by: Anonymous

Sorry what an unhappy situation - did you both make the decision to get 2 puppies or was it your choice? maybe your wife should have said how she felt before the puppies came home. My boy was a complete nightmare until he was about 10 months he just need to be outside and he needed lots of stimulation. I took him to a training class where he did not learn anything as he was so excited. I found another class where the trainer was used to working dogs it was a 32 mile round trip but well worth it. He taught me that calmness with Springers is very important. He said my body language with my dog was tense and I seemed worried and anxious with him so he was feeding off my feelings,(I have owned dogs all my life) But with this particular dog with such high energy I needed to change the way I was with him. He is 5 years old now still excitable at times but I remain calm and consistent with him and never shout at him, this works for us. Good luck I hope it works out for these puppies if not be honest with yoursef and let them go.

Mar 07, 2012
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by: Michele

Wow - tough situation. Since you have older dogs you have forgotten what it's like to have puppies...especially Springer puppies! I'm certain your older dogs acted the same way when they were young.

I have a couple of suggestions. First, if you are set upon keeping the pups I would immediately get some obedience training lined up. And I would recommend your wife attend with you and participate in the training. She also needs to be seen as the pack leader and her ignoring them isn't going to allow that to happen.

Second, puppies need exercise. Walks at their age are fine. Two or three walks a day wouldn't be too much for them, as long as you weren't walking them 5 miles each time. If you can't manage more than 1 walk per day, then make the best of that walk. Take a different route each time. Puppies, like people, get bored. And again, your wife needs to participate!

My third suggestion is difficult....if your wife doesn't believe she wants to keep the puppies then I think you would be doing them a favor by rehoming them now while they're still at a young age. It's unfair to both your wife and to the pups and I believe you will only see more behavior problems in the future if your wife can't bond with them.

Whatever you choose, I wish you luck!

Mar 07, 2012
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by: Anonymous

hi way dont you buy a cage so when they get to much you wife can put them in it and have you thought about puppy school it was very good for my springer puppy they pick up things very fast

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